The first draft of this book, my first for children, was written in 2001, as a gift for my daughter, who was then eight and a half years old. I wrote it for her after we read Little Women together and she noted (or complained) that Marmee, the mother in the story, gave her daughters each a copy of a "guide to life."
"Why haven't you written a guide to life for me?" my daughter wanted to know. When I laughed and explained that the "guide to life" in Little Women was a religious tract, John Bunyan's Pilgrim's Progress, she wasn't having any of it. She folded her arms and said, "Yes, well, that's because Marmee isn't a writer. So she couldn't write her own. But you could."
And so I did.
But until the Guide to Life I wrote for her surfaced again during a search of her bookshelves (she herself having decamped to college nearly two years before) for the first volume of Maud Hart Lovelace's wonderful Betsy-Tacy series to read with a seven-year-old friend, I had forgotten that I had ever written it. But there it was, neatly shelved alongside volumes of poetry and collections of plays: a homemade, crudely hand-stitched "book" (its author, who knows how to do a number of things, does not, unfortunately, know how to sew--but not knowing how to do something has never stopped her [that is, me] from trying to do it). I sat down on the floor of my daughter's room then and there and read it through--grateful and pleased and touched that she had kept it, and grateful and pleased and touched to learn subsequently, over emails and texts, that it had (and how and why it had) been helpful to her and her friends when they were children.
And so now I have published it, with the hope that it will be useful to other eight- and nine- and ten-year-olds (and perhaps girls a little young or a little older, too).
Michelle Herman, the director of the creative writing program at Ohio State University, is a novelist and essayist whose most recent book,
Stories We Tell Ourselves, was longlisted for the 2014 PEN/Diamonstein-Spielvogel Award for the Art of the Essay. Her other books include
The Middle of Everything: Memoirs of Motherhood, the novels
Missing and
Dog, the collection of novellas,
A New and Glorious Life, and
Like A Song, a new essay collection about singing, friendship, home, and family, to be published in 2015.
Born and raised in Brooklyn, New York, she has lived for many years in Columbus, Ohio, where she and her husband, the artist Glen Holland, raised their daughter Grace, who is now all grown up.