Wherever You Are: A Memoir of Love, Marriage, and Brain Injury - Softcover

Lim, Cynthia

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1603817212 ISBN 13: 9781603817219

Publisher: Coffeetown Press, 2018

Synopsis

Cynthia Lim thought she had the perfect life: a husband who was a successful attorney, a fulfilling career in education, two teenage sons in private school, and a home in Los Angeles rich in books, music, and art. Then in 2003, her husband Perry suffers a cardiac arrest and brain injury, lingering in a coma for ten days before slowly awakening. A different person emerges, one who has lost his short-term memory and is fully dependent on others. Married for twenty years, she doesn't know how much of his former self will return as she fights for the treatment and care he needs.

She struggles with caregiving and working full-time while finding connection with the man she once knew and loved, whose brain will never again function as it did before. While wrestling with the urge to leave him in an institution and walk away, she discovers the strength and resolve that will allow her to build a new life. Wherever You Are is the story of a marriage after a spouse is forever changed by a catastrophic event. It is a story of redefining life with disability and discovering the real truth of love and marriage.

About this title

About the Author:

Cynthia Lim lives in Los Angeles. She is retired from Los Angeles Unified School District and holds a doctorate in social welfare. Her essays have appeared in various publications including Hawai'i Pacific Review, Gemini Magazine, Hobart, and Witness Magazine. Find out more about Cynthia at cynthialimwriting.com.

Review:

"Wherever You Are by Cynthia Lim, answers the question "What makes a life worth living?" When Lim's young husband suffers a crippling brain injury, she feels at first like a widow whose husband isn't dead. Where is the man she married? Over time she and her teenage sons deal with the stark reality of the challenges of her husband's disability. Just as they had adventured as a family on sea and into the wilderness, they learn to navigate the world of disability. A beautifully written love story by a courageous woman who finds the capacity to experience joy and love in the face of devastating loss."

--Maureen Murdock, author of Unreliable Truth: On Memoir and Memory

"For anyone who has been dealt one of life's unexpected blows, Cynthia Lim's memoir, Wherever You Are is a heartwarming reminder of love, commitment, marriage and how to make your way forward after the unimaginable. Lim's honest prose and compelling story of her husband's sudden cardiac arrest and resulting brain injury, is a wonderful account of all of the emotions, heartbreak, acceptance and ultimately small joys that come with a 'slowed down life.' As life moves forward for all of us, the lesson is to continually accept the new shape of our lives."

--Lee Woodruff, author of In An Instant: A Family's Journey of Love and Healing

"I can't get this story out of my head. It haunts me. It makes me wonder, Would I be that brave? That strong? That full of joy?"

--Jennie Nash, Founder and Chief Creative Officer, AuthorAccelerator.com

If you're a caregiver for someone who has life changing health issues, or know a caregiver, grab this book. With depth and brutal honesty, Cynthia Lim shares her journey and hard-won lessons about life after her husband's heart attack and resulting brain injury. In this beautifully written memoir she learns gratitude (without a hint of sentimentality) for what is left--'Enough of his essence remained so that his silent companionship anchored me, provided me with reminders of what was most important in life.' She also learned how to reach out beyond her own grief to accept support and help. Ultimately this is a love story; a marriage and a family that has held fast in spite of overwhelming challenges."

--Barbara Abercrombie, author of A Year of Writing Dangerously and Kicking in the Wall

About this edition

• Publisher: Coffeetown Press
• Publication date: 2018
• ISBN 10: 1603817212
• ISBN 13: 9781603817219
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 240