The Mother Trip: Hip Mama's Guide to Staying Sane in the Chaos of Motherhood (Live Girls) - Softcover

Gore, Ariel

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1580050298 ISBN 13: 9781580050296

Publisher: Seal Press, 2000

Synopsis

In her last book, outspoken urban mom Ariel Gore offered help for real-world mothers. In The Mother Trip, she gives her inspiration, encouragement, and moral support to unconventional moms. In these essays, she bashes the stereotype of the "good mother" and encourages readers to follow their instincts and redefine motherhood in their own terms.

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Review:

In The Mother Trip, her follow-up to the cult classic, The Hip Mama Survival Guide, Ariel Gore offers the kind of down-to-earth, truthful mothering conversations that you'd expect to have with a best girlfriend. In this collection of essays--some lasting one page, some stretching to five--Gore deftly spotlights the messy corners of motherhood: sleeplessness, depression, weird pregnancy dreams, the restless hunger for creativity, and the passionate love of children. This is comforting turf, especially for mothers who have felt patronized and bored by the numerous advice-laden mothering manuals on the market. Gore mixes straight talk with dreamier musings, using sensual details and thoughtful subtext to illuminate the spirituality of motherhood. (Her essay about being 19, pregnant, and living with a transient boyfriend in Italy is a masterfully crafted gem.) A sexy, political, and highly conscious mother who refuses to diminish herself, Gore is one of the best mothering role models to show up on the written page. In the essay "Children Need Interesting Mothers," she writes,

We need time to ourselves, moments of awareness, connections, meaningful work. We need cheap art, good sex, nights at the bowling alley and days at the beach. We need good coffee, hearty meals, lush gardens and time to relax and enjoy our lives without worrying so much that we are good enough mothers or skinny enough girlfriends or wives. We need to take care of ourselves so that we can mother our children soulfully and lead lives worth living.

Amen, sister. --Gail Hudson

From Library Journal:

What looks to be a breezy, sometimes irreverent, certainly untraditional book about motherhood is really worthwhile. Besides that, it's fun. Gore, a single mother, is founder and publisher of Hip Mama magazine, from which the web site originated. After a slow start (with descriptions of her pregnancy and time spent in Italy), Gore shares her feelings about motherhood and American culture in short, seemingly unordered chapters. Sprinkled throughout are autobiographical anecdotesDan unconventional childhood, parents and stepparents, welfare problems, a custody battle, and relationships with menDthat illustrate her view of motherhood. Along the way, she also debunks popular myths by asserting, "Never abandon your child, even to tough-love approaches. You are enough for your child. Loafing is good for you and your children. Never worry about having it all." (Elsewhere, in this reviewer's favorite passage, she notes, "Juggling is for circus clowns.") Gore knows that motherhood is isolating, heartbreaking, and delightful, and she's not afraid to say so.DLinda Beck, Indian Valley P.L., Telford, PA
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.

About this edition

• Publisher: Seal Press
• Publication date: 2000
• ISBN 10: 1580050298
• ISBN 13: 9781580050296
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 208
• Illustrator: Gore Ariel, Forney Ellen