What If?: Answers to Questions About What It Means to Be Gay and Lesbian - Softcover
An updated and revised informative, accessible guide to understanding and approaching the issue of sexual orientation.
No question goes unanswered in this important book about being gay. All the basics—and not-so-basics—are covered in more than one hundred questions asked by real teens. Whether you’re curious about your own sexual orientation or looking to understand and support someone close to you, this book contains an abundance of answers. Primarily targeted at young adults, this indispensible guide also includes a chapter especially for parents as well as an appendix packed with additional resources.
Expert Eric Marcus has fully updated and revised this essential guide for today’s readers. He candidly and clearly pushes aside the myths and misinformation about being gay and lesbian, answering all the questions that are on your mind.
No question goes unanswered in this important book about being gay. All the basics—and not-so-basics—are covered in more than one hundred questions asked by real teens. Whether you’re curious about your own sexual orientation or looking to understand and support someone close to you, this book contains an abundance of answers. Primarily targeted at young adults, this indispensible guide also includes a chapter especially for parents as well as an appendix packed with additional resources.
Expert Eric Marcus has fully updated and revised this essential guide for today’s readers. He candidly and clearly pushes aside the myths and misinformation about being gay and lesbian, answering all the questions that are on your mind.
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About the Author:
Eric Marcus is the author of several books on gay issues, including Is It A Choice? and Making Gay History. He is also the author of Why Suicide? and coauthor of Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times bestselling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. Visit him at EricMarcus.com.
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What If? chapter 1 the basic stuff
I like to think that the best place to start when you’re new to any subject (and even if you’re not entirely new) is at the beginning. Homosexuality is a complicated and all too often controversial subject that’s difficult to discuss if you don’t understand the basic concepts and issues. So I’ve devoted this first chapter, which is the longest in the book, to all the essential questions (and answers) you need to know before reading the chapters that follow. You may be tempted to skip right to the chapter about sex, but I urge you to start here.
Before you get to the first question, I have a quick warning about the Internet that you’ve no doubt heard before from your parents, but bears repeating because throughout this chapter and the ones that follow, I recommend various websites. So here’s the warning: It is extremely important to be cautious when you use the Internet, especially if you decide to join a discussion group or use the Internet to meet other young people. Because it’s so easy to create a false online profile, it can be hard to tell who is being truthful and who is not. So there’s the possibility that someone may try to take advantage of you, may make you uncomfortable online, or might try to arrange to meet you when they should not.
Always remember that when meeting people online, you should use the same caution you would when meeting any stranger: Never give out your telephone number or home address and never agree to meet anyone in person unless you are accompanied by a parent or another responsible adult, and then only meet in a public place.
The Internet is an amazing resource, but you have to be careful and use common sense. And, if possible, please seek guidance from your parents or a responsible adult.
What does “gay” mean?
Someone who is attracted to people of the same sex is “gay” or “homosexual” (these words can refer to both men and women, although a lot of women prefer to be called “lesbian”). Someone who is attracted to people of the opposite sex is called “heterosexual” or “straight.” And someone who is attracted to people of both the same sex and the opposite sex is called “bisexual.” “Gay,” “straight,” and “bisexual” are all terms that describe a person’s “sexual orientation.” And sexual orientation simply refers to the sex of the people you’re attracted to. In other words, if your sexual orientation is gay, then you are attracted to someone of the same sex.
Is “gay” the same as LGBT?
LGBT is an acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.” As the gay rights movement has evolved over recent decades, many people have come to feel that the term “gay” didn’t represent them or wasn’t inclusive enough. So they fought for language that made clear that the gay rights movement and the gay community included them. Over the years we’ve seen organizations first add “lesbian” (as in the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force), then “bisexual,” and more recently “transgender.”
Some people feel that LGBT is not inclusive enough and have added the letter Q to signify people who are “questioning.” These are people who don’t yet have a clear understanding of their sexual orientation or whether they’re transgender.
In this book you’ll find questions and answers primarily about the L and G in LGBTQ.
Does “sex” have two meanings? Does it mean the same as “gender”?
Yes, “sex” has two meanings. Sex is something people do, which you’ll learn more about in Chapter 4. But the word “sex” also refers to whether you’re male or female. For example, when you fill out a form at the doctor’s office, there is almost always a question about your sex where you’re asked to mark a box labeled “male” or a box labeled “female.”
Sometimes people mistakenly use the word “gender” to describe their physical sex (male or female). Gender, however, has to do with your identity. In other words, do you identify as a boy or as a girl. This is a bit hard to understand, so I’m going to quote my friend Bronwen Pardes, author of Doing It Right, who offers a simple explanation for this. Bronwen says, “If this sounds confusing, it’s probably because most people’s sex and gender match, and they don’t think much about it. Most biological males identify as boys and men; most females, as girls and women. But this isn’t always the case.” Please see the next question for more information about gender and gender identity.
What is transgender?
A transgender person is someone who feels that the sex he or she is on the outside (male or female) doesn’t match what he or she feels on the inside. So, for example, a boy who is transgender thinks of himself as a girl, even though he has a boy’s body. And a girl who is transgender thinks of herself as a boy, even though she has a girl’s body. If you do a little research, as I did, you’ll find that not everyone agrees that this is a complete definition of “transgender,” but I think it’s a good starting point for anyone who is interested in this complex subject. For more information I suggest exploring some of the resources I list in Chapter 9.
Are transgender people gay?
Just like anyone else, transgender people can be straight, gay, or bisexual. How people experience being male or female has nothing to do with their feelings of sexual attraction for others.
How do you become gay?
Simple answer: You can’t become gay, just like you can’t become straight. This is how it works: All of us have feelings of sexual attraction. Most of us have these feelings for people of the opposite sex—boys for girls, girls for boys. Some of us have these feelings for people of the same sex—boys for boys, girls for girls. And some people have feelings of sexual attraction for both the same sex and the opposite sex.
For example, when Mae was ten years old, she already knew she was different from most of her classmates. “All the girls in elementary school were boy crazy. I knew that I wasn’t, but I pretended to be like everyone else.”
No one knows exactly how we come by our feelings of sexual attraction in the first place, but whether we’re born with them or develop them in the very early months and years of life, they are a gift that can make us feel very good as well as very confused.
As we enter our teen years, these feelings of attraction grow stronger and we often find ourselves both emotionally and physically—or sexually—attracted to another person. That was Mae’s experience. By the time she was thirteen, her feelings of sexual attraction were clear. “When I was thirteen I admitted it to myself. My friends were always talking about being attracted to cute guys. And I was always just attracted to girls. It was a feeling inside. I tried to be attracted to guys, but it wasn’t working.”
What exactly are “feelings of sexual attraction”?
As we grow into adolescence and our bodies change, we begin to have strong feelings of attraction that are different from and more intense than the good feelings we might have for a relative or friend. It is these strong feelings of sexual attraction that make us want to have a sexual relationship. For some people these feelings begin before puberty, and for others they don’t come until after. These special feelings of excitement and desire are difficult to describe, but you’ll know them when you experience them.
Looking back, I can tell you exactly when I had strong feelings of sexual attraction for the first time. I didn’t know what to call it then, because I’d never experienced anything like it before, but I knew that I was feeling something very powerful that made me feel really good in a way that’s difficult to describe.
I was twelve and a half and I was in Puerto Rico with my family on vacation (it was our first trip where we had to take an airplane). I was in the swimming pool at the Caribe Hilton, hanging out in the shallow end. I wasn’t much of a swimmer and couldn’t float very well. This older kid, who was probably sixteen or seventeen and a really good swimmer, must have noticed that I was trying to float on my back but kept sinking and getting water up my nose. So he swam over and offered to teach me how to float. Turns out that Andrew was a lifeguard back home and he was really good-looking, but I don’t remember thinking, Oh, he’s cute.
What I do remember is that Andrew got me to float on my back. Before I could sink like I always did, he put one hand under the base of my back and his other hand between my shoulder blades and applied just enough pressure to keep me from going under. And he told me to relax as he walked me around the pool to get me comfortable with being on my back in the water.
It wasn’t like lightning struck or anything, but it felt as if there was energy that started in Andrew’s hands and traveled through my entire body. It was a wonderful, tingly feeling, which made my heart race and made me feel calm all at the same time. It felt so good that I wished I could float in the pool all day with Andrew’s hands supporting me.
I look back now and I can tell you that I was definitely having feelings of sexual attraction for the first time in my life. And those feelings were so powerful that I can recall the experience and those feelings like it was yesterday.
Is being gay a choice?
I’m asked this question more often than just about any other, and the answer is no. People don’t choose their feelings of sexual attraction. That’s true for everyone. I didn’t choose to feel the way I did when Andrew touched me, and if you’ve ever been attracted to someone, whether they’re of the same or the opposite sex, you know that you didn’t decide to feel tingly whenever you were near them. Like your eye color, skin color, or height, you don’t get to choose your feelings of sexual attraction. They have been chosen for you. However, what you decide to do about these feelings is a matter of choice.
Can you change your feelings?
No. When it comes to feelings of sexual attraction, no amount of hoping, praying, counseling, or wishful thinking will make them go away. Unlike most gifts, when it comes to your feelings of sexual attraction, there are no exchanges and no returns. You can try to ignore your feelings, you can pretend you’re not having them, but no matter what anyone says, you can’t change or eliminate your fundamental feelings of sexual attraction, just as you can’t change the true color of your eyes. That goes for gay people just as it does for straight people.
I remember being thirteen and hoping that my feelings for people of the same sex would change. At the time, I had a crush on my camp counselor, Ted. I didn’t just like Ted—I really, really liked Ted. It’s not that I wanted to have sex with him—I wasn’t even certain how people had sex. But I wanted to be around Ted, I thought about him all the time, and it made me feel very good the few times he put his arm around my shoulder.
I was pretty sure that the other boys in my cabin didn’t feel the way I did. For one thing, they talked a lot about Ted’s girlfriend, Rebecca, a counselor in the teen division, who they thought looked amazing in a bathing suit. I could tell Rebecca was attractive, but I didn’t understand what all the excitement was about. I especially didn’t understand why my cabin-mates were all so interested in going on late-night raids of the girls’ cabins.
At first I didn’t worry too much about my crush on Ted and other guys, because I’d heard that some boys have these feelings and outgrow them. (How our feelings of sexual attraction develop is more complicated than that, as you’ll find out in the answer to the next question, but gay kids can’t “outgrow” whom they are sexually attracted to any more than straight kids can.) But I quickly learned from the other kids at camp that my attraction to guys was something really bad, so I was hoping I’d outgrow those feelings fast. I figured that I would stop having crushes on male counselors and would start having crushes on girl counselors, and that one day I even might want to get up in the middle of the night and crawl through the woods to the other side of camp and sneak into one of the girls’ cabins. But as much as I hoped that my feelings would change, they didn’t.
What about people who say they used to be gay, but now they’re not? Did they really change?
There are people who say that they used to be gay or lesbian and that they’ve changed or been “cured” through prayer, through counseling, or by attending a program designed to help gay people become “ex-gays.” It is true that people can change their behavior. But they can’t change their true feelings of sexual attraction. Those feelings, no matter how hard you might try to bury them, ignore them, or convince yourself you don’t have them, stay with you for as long as you live.
For example, a gay man can end his relationship with another man and start having a relationship with a woman. But that doesn’t mean he’s suddenly developed feelings of sexual attraction for women. In all likelihood he still has the same attraction to men that he always had. He may be trying to ignore those feelings, but they’re still there.
I remember getting a letter many years ago from a former boyfriend who went through an “ex-gay” program. He wrote to me just after my first book, The Male Couple’s Guide, was published. In his letter he told me that I could choose to change too, just like he had. But I had long since decided to be true to myself and had no interest in trying to be something I wasn’t. I knew that society would be more accepting of me if I pretended to be straight, but I thought it would be better to use my energy to fight prejudice than to fight against my true feelings. After all, there is nothing wrong with my feelings, so why try to pretend I don’t have them?
Update: Nearly twenty-five years after I received that letter from my former boyfriend, I received an e-mail from him asking to get together to talk. Over dinner he told me that he’d come to accept the fact he was gay. He’d been married to a woman for many years and had teenage children, so unraveling the life he’d built was going to be complicated, but he decided he couldn’t pretend to be someone he wasn’t any longer. I told him that I admired his courage to come out in midlife.
I hope I’ve been clear on this point: Whether you’re straight or gay, you can’t change your feelings of sexual attraction. When you’re young, it’s perfectly natural to have a range of feelings, including feelings of same-sex attraction. These feelings may shift over time, but by your late teens, you’re usually sure of those feelings and there’s nothing you can do to change them. However, our sexual natures are complex, so just because you can’t change your feelings of sexual attraction doesn’t mean they won’t evolve on their own as you go through life. Please keep in mind that this is not a typical experience, and from my experiences talking to people over the years, such a change is something you’re far more likely to hear about from a girl than a guy.
For example, Molly told everyone she was a lesbian when she was sixteen years old. She had a girlfriend all through college, but after they broke up (when Molly was twenty-three), she found herself becoming interested in guys. “I still think women are beautiful,” she says, “but I haven’t met a woman w...
I like to think that the best place to start when you’re new to any subject (and even if you’re not entirely new) is at the beginning. Homosexuality is a complicated and all too often controversial subject that’s difficult to discuss if you don’t understand the basic concepts and issues. So I’ve devoted this first chapter, which is the longest in the book, to all the essential questions (and answers) you need to know before reading the chapters that follow. You may be tempted to skip right to the chapter about sex, but I urge you to start here.
Before you get to the first question, I have a quick warning about the Internet that you’ve no doubt heard before from your parents, but bears repeating because throughout this chapter and the ones that follow, I recommend various websites. So here’s the warning: It is extremely important to be cautious when you use the Internet, especially if you decide to join a discussion group or use the Internet to meet other young people. Because it’s so easy to create a false online profile, it can be hard to tell who is being truthful and who is not. So there’s the possibility that someone may try to take advantage of you, may make you uncomfortable online, or might try to arrange to meet you when they should not.
Always remember that when meeting people online, you should use the same caution you would when meeting any stranger: Never give out your telephone number or home address and never agree to meet anyone in person unless you are accompanied by a parent or another responsible adult, and then only meet in a public place.
The Internet is an amazing resource, but you have to be careful and use common sense. And, if possible, please seek guidance from your parents or a responsible adult.
What does “gay” mean?
Someone who is attracted to people of the same sex is “gay” or “homosexual” (these words can refer to both men and women, although a lot of women prefer to be called “lesbian”). Someone who is attracted to people of the opposite sex is called “heterosexual” or “straight.” And someone who is attracted to people of both the same sex and the opposite sex is called “bisexual.” “Gay,” “straight,” and “bisexual” are all terms that describe a person’s “sexual orientation.” And sexual orientation simply refers to the sex of the people you’re attracted to. In other words, if your sexual orientation is gay, then you are attracted to someone of the same sex.
Is “gay” the same as LGBT?
LGBT is an acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.” As the gay rights movement has evolved over recent decades, many people have come to feel that the term “gay” didn’t represent them or wasn’t inclusive enough. So they fought for language that made clear that the gay rights movement and the gay community included them. Over the years we’ve seen organizations first add “lesbian” (as in the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force), then “bisexual,” and more recently “transgender.”
Some people feel that LGBT is not inclusive enough and have added the letter Q to signify people who are “questioning.” These are people who don’t yet have a clear understanding of their sexual orientation or whether they’re transgender.
In this book you’ll find questions and answers primarily about the L and G in LGBTQ.
Does “sex” have two meanings? Does it mean the same as “gender”?
Yes, “sex” has two meanings. Sex is something people do, which you’ll learn more about in Chapter 4. But the word “sex” also refers to whether you’re male or female. For example, when you fill out a form at the doctor’s office, there is almost always a question about your sex where you’re asked to mark a box labeled “male” or a box labeled “female.”
Sometimes people mistakenly use the word “gender” to describe their physical sex (male or female). Gender, however, has to do with your identity. In other words, do you identify as a boy or as a girl. This is a bit hard to understand, so I’m going to quote my friend Bronwen Pardes, author of Doing It Right, who offers a simple explanation for this. Bronwen says, “If this sounds confusing, it’s probably because most people’s sex and gender match, and they don’t think much about it. Most biological males identify as boys and men; most females, as girls and women. But this isn’t always the case.” Please see the next question for more information about gender and gender identity.
What is transgender?
A transgender person is someone who feels that the sex he or she is on the outside (male or female) doesn’t match what he or she feels on the inside. So, for example, a boy who is transgender thinks of himself as a girl, even though he has a boy’s body. And a girl who is transgender thinks of herself as a boy, even though she has a girl’s body. If you do a little research, as I did, you’ll find that not everyone agrees that this is a complete definition of “transgender,” but I think it’s a good starting point for anyone who is interested in this complex subject. For more information I suggest exploring some of the resources I list in Chapter 9.
Are transgender people gay?
Just like anyone else, transgender people can be straight, gay, or bisexual. How people experience being male or female has nothing to do with their feelings of sexual attraction for others.
How do you become gay?
Simple answer: You can’t become gay, just like you can’t become straight. This is how it works: All of us have feelings of sexual attraction. Most of us have these feelings for people of the opposite sex—boys for girls, girls for boys. Some of us have these feelings for people of the same sex—boys for boys, girls for girls. And some people have feelings of sexual attraction for both the same sex and the opposite sex.
For example, when Mae was ten years old, she already knew she was different from most of her classmates. “All the girls in elementary school were boy crazy. I knew that I wasn’t, but I pretended to be like everyone else.”
No one knows exactly how we come by our feelings of sexual attraction in the first place, but whether we’re born with them or develop them in the very early months and years of life, they are a gift that can make us feel very good as well as very confused.
As we enter our teen years, these feelings of attraction grow stronger and we often find ourselves both emotionally and physically—or sexually—attracted to another person. That was Mae’s experience. By the time she was thirteen, her feelings of sexual attraction were clear. “When I was thirteen I admitted it to myself. My friends were always talking about being attracted to cute guys. And I was always just attracted to girls. It was a feeling inside. I tried to be attracted to guys, but it wasn’t working.”
What exactly are “feelings of sexual attraction”?
As we grow into adolescence and our bodies change, we begin to have strong feelings of attraction that are different from and more intense than the good feelings we might have for a relative or friend. It is these strong feelings of sexual attraction that make us want to have a sexual relationship. For some people these feelings begin before puberty, and for others they don’t come until after. These special feelings of excitement and desire are difficult to describe, but you’ll know them when you experience them.
Looking back, I can tell you exactly when I had strong feelings of sexual attraction for the first time. I didn’t know what to call it then, because I’d never experienced anything like it before, but I knew that I was feeling something very powerful that made me feel really good in a way that’s difficult to describe.
I was twelve and a half and I was in Puerto Rico with my family on vacation (it was our first trip where we had to take an airplane). I was in the swimming pool at the Caribe Hilton, hanging out in the shallow end. I wasn’t much of a swimmer and couldn’t float very well. This older kid, who was probably sixteen or seventeen and a really good swimmer, must have noticed that I was trying to float on my back but kept sinking and getting water up my nose. So he swam over and offered to teach me how to float. Turns out that Andrew was a lifeguard back home and he was really good-looking, but I don’t remember thinking, Oh, he’s cute.
What I do remember is that Andrew got me to float on my back. Before I could sink like I always did, he put one hand under the base of my back and his other hand between my shoulder blades and applied just enough pressure to keep me from going under. And he told me to relax as he walked me around the pool to get me comfortable with being on my back in the water.
It wasn’t like lightning struck or anything, but it felt as if there was energy that started in Andrew’s hands and traveled through my entire body. It was a wonderful, tingly feeling, which made my heart race and made me feel calm all at the same time. It felt so good that I wished I could float in the pool all day with Andrew’s hands supporting me.
I look back now and I can tell you that I was definitely having feelings of sexual attraction for the first time in my life. And those feelings were so powerful that I can recall the experience and those feelings like it was yesterday.
Is being gay a choice?
I’m asked this question more often than just about any other, and the answer is no. People don’t choose their feelings of sexual attraction. That’s true for everyone. I didn’t choose to feel the way I did when Andrew touched me, and if you’ve ever been attracted to someone, whether they’re of the same or the opposite sex, you know that you didn’t decide to feel tingly whenever you were near them. Like your eye color, skin color, or height, you don’t get to choose your feelings of sexual attraction. They have been chosen for you. However, what you decide to do about these feelings is a matter of choice.
Can you change your feelings?
No. When it comes to feelings of sexual attraction, no amount of hoping, praying, counseling, or wishful thinking will make them go away. Unlike most gifts, when it comes to your feelings of sexual attraction, there are no exchanges and no returns. You can try to ignore your feelings, you can pretend you’re not having them, but no matter what anyone says, you can’t change or eliminate your fundamental feelings of sexual attraction, just as you can’t change the true color of your eyes. That goes for gay people just as it does for straight people.
I remember being thirteen and hoping that my feelings for people of the same sex would change. At the time, I had a crush on my camp counselor, Ted. I didn’t just like Ted—I really, really liked Ted. It’s not that I wanted to have sex with him—I wasn’t even certain how people had sex. But I wanted to be around Ted, I thought about him all the time, and it made me feel very good the few times he put his arm around my shoulder.
I was pretty sure that the other boys in my cabin didn’t feel the way I did. For one thing, they talked a lot about Ted’s girlfriend, Rebecca, a counselor in the teen division, who they thought looked amazing in a bathing suit. I could tell Rebecca was attractive, but I didn’t understand what all the excitement was about. I especially didn’t understand why my cabin-mates were all so interested in going on late-night raids of the girls’ cabins.
At first I didn’t worry too much about my crush on Ted and other guys, because I’d heard that some boys have these feelings and outgrow them. (How our feelings of sexual attraction develop is more complicated than that, as you’ll find out in the answer to the next question, but gay kids can’t “outgrow” whom they are sexually attracted to any more than straight kids can.) But I quickly learned from the other kids at camp that my attraction to guys was something really bad, so I was hoping I’d outgrow those feelings fast. I figured that I would stop having crushes on male counselors and would start having crushes on girl counselors, and that one day I even might want to get up in the middle of the night and crawl through the woods to the other side of camp and sneak into one of the girls’ cabins. But as much as I hoped that my feelings would change, they didn’t.
What about people who say they used to be gay, but now they’re not? Did they really change?
There are people who say that they used to be gay or lesbian and that they’ve changed or been “cured” through prayer, through counseling, or by attending a program designed to help gay people become “ex-gays.” It is true that people can change their behavior. But they can’t change their true feelings of sexual attraction. Those feelings, no matter how hard you might try to bury them, ignore them, or convince yourself you don’t have them, stay with you for as long as you live.
For example, a gay man can end his relationship with another man and start having a relationship with a woman. But that doesn’t mean he’s suddenly developed feelings of sexual attraction for women. In all likelihood he still has the same attraction to men that he always had. He may be trying to ignore those feelings, but they’re still there.
I remember getting a letter many years ago from a former boyfriend who went through an “ex-gay” program. He wrote to me just after my first book, The Male Couple’s Guide, was published. In his letter he told me that I could choose to change too, just like he had. But I had long since decided to be true to myself and had no interest in trying to be something I wasn’t. I knew that society would be more accepting of me if I pretended to be straight, but I thought it would be better to use my energy to fight prejudice than to fight against my true feelings. After all, there is nothing wrong with my feelings, so why try to pretend I don’t have them?
Update: Nearly twenty-five years after I received that letter from my former boyfriend, I received an e-mail from him asking to get together to talk. Over dinner he told me that he’d come to accept the fact he was gay. He’d been married to a woman for many years and had teenage children, so unraveling the life he’d built was going to be complicated, but he decided he couldn’t pretend to be someone he wasn’t any longer. I told him that I admired his courage to come out in midlife.
I hope I’ve been clear on this point: Whether you’re straight or gay, you can’t change your feelings of sexual attraction. When you’re young, it’s perfectly natural to have a range of feelings, including feelings of same-sex attraction. These feelings may shift over time, but by your late teens, you’re usually sure of those feelings and there’s nothing you can do to change them. However, our sexual natures are complex, so just because you can’t change your feelings of sexual attraction doesn’t mean they won’t evolve on their own as you go through life. Please keep in mind that this is not a typical experience, and from my experiences talking to people over the years, such a change is something you’re far more likely to hear about from a girl than a guy.
For example, Molly told everyone she was a lesbian when she was sixteen years old. She had a girlfriend all through college, but after they broke up (when Molly was twenty-three), she found herself becoming interested in guys. “I still think women are beautiful,” she says, “but I haven’t met a woman w...
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What If?: Answers to Questions About What It Means to Be Gay and Lesbian
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Simon & Schuster Books for Young Readers
(2013)
ISBN 10: 1442482974
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Book Description Condition: New. New. In shrink wrap. Looks like an interesting title! 0.4. Seller Inventory # Q-1442482974
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