Together Forever: The Gay Man's Guide to Lifelong Love - Softcover

Kantor, Martin

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9781402203442: Together Forever: The Gay Man's Guide to Lifelong Love

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ISBN 10: 1402203446 ISBN 13: 9781402203442

Publisher: Sourcebooks Casablanca, 2005

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A loving, lasting, committed relationship

One of the greatest challenges that gay men face today is deciding to be in a long-term committed relationship and then learning how to make it work. Dr. Kantor busts the myths that exist in the gay community about relationships and gives gay men a model for healthy, happy marriages (legal or not).

Learn:
-Why the fate of your relationship is more important than the health and well-being of your sofa

-Why you should choose commitment and work to make the relationship strong

-How to have good, plenty, and forever sex

-The secrets of keeping your man, your friends and your family happy (even "difficult" loved ones)

-Ways to avoid damage to your relationship from third parties that don't have your best interests at heart

"Peppered with hilarious proverbs, insightful quizzes and fascinating anecdotes, Together Forever is honestly refreshing, and goes against the grain of most tired self-help books. You'll learn the art of the compromise and how to truly give of yourself--without losing yourself--for the sake of a joyful, committed partnership."
--Raeleen D'Agostino Mautner, PhD,
author of Living la Dolce Vita

Dr. Martin Kantor is a psychiatrist specializing in gay men's issues. He is the author of My Guy. He lives with his partner of 22 years in New Jersey.

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About the Author:

Martin Kantor, MD, is a psychiatrist who has been in full-time private practice in Boston and New York and on the staffs of the Massachusetts General Hospital and The Mount Sinai School of Medicine. He is the author of thirteen other books on psychological topics, including a revised version of Distancing, which describes how people avoid relationships due to anxiety; Paranoia, which covers such disorders of the paranoid spectrum as paranoid personality disorder; Homophobia, which views homophobia as a manifestation of deep psychological problems; and Treating Emotional Disorder in Gay Men, which describes the form some common psychological difficulties take when they appear in homosexuals and offers some practical suggestions on how to modify psychotherapy to make it more relevant to, and palatable and affirmative for, gay men. My Guy, which offers single gay men some practical suggestions on how to meet the Mr. Right of their dreams, was published by Sourcebooks in 2002. His most recent work is an article on coping among victims of sexual prejudice and discrimination for a book on the psychology of prejudice and discrimination. He lives very quietly during the week with Michael, his partner of twenty-two years, in an apartment in Asbury Park, New Jersey, and reverse-commutes to New York City on Weekends.

From Publishers Weekly:

As the debate over gay marriage continues, Kantor's book offers solid couples counseling advice to gay men in committed relationships who may be headed for the divorce courts before they are even legally open to them. A psychiatrist specializing in gay men's issues and in a relationship himself for more than 22 years with the same man, Kantor assesses singeldom as a sorry state and coupledom as the greatest thing possible: "My book seriously pushes Donna Reed over Sex and the City," he writes, and he is true to his word, extolling the virtues of self-sacrifice over individualism and maintaining the relationship at all costs. However, coupledom is no bed of roses and to keep it feasible involves hard work; Kantor identifies nine relationship danger zones-boredom and restlessness, sexual problems, anger, fear of closeness and commitment, self-absorption, being uptight, getting paranoid, excessive dependency and excessive competitiveness-and devotes a chapter to each. A self-test in each chapter helps readers decide if this area is their relationship's danger zone, followed by examples from his experiences and concluding with ways to work through these dicey problems. For readers not in a committed relationship, the book's emphasis will annoy and be of little use. Fear not, try Kantor's previous book, My Guy, about meeting Mr. Right, then turn to this one if things start to sour.
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