About the Author:
Susan Tordella is a parenting expert who specializes in coaching parents to change their behavior to get new and improved results from children. Her goal is for parents to use the first dozen years to develop teenagers who will make good decisions when they re 60 miles away, going 60 miles an hour. Susan led parenting skills workshops for eight years for the Family Education Center in Wilmington, Delaware and at the Roudenbush Community Center in Westford, Mass. She said: I taught what I most needed to learn. My best teaching tool was showing people what I learned from my mistakes, and I made plenty, She taught parenting strategies to parents of tots-to-teenagers. The result is calmer and more harmonious homes and confident, capable children and teens. Susan was a domo-guru for 17 years, in charge of everything from toilet training to driver training. Susan is former journalist, having worked as a reporter then an editor of community newspapers for five years, while having a house full of teenagers at home. She is an award-winning writer, program director and speaker.
Review:
Local author teaching families the value of chores By Dina Samfield, Correspondent Posted: 05/21/2010 07:32:33 AM EDT AYER -- Susan Tordella, the author of the new book Raising Able: How Chores Cultivate Competent Confident Young People, says involving your family in household tasks not only gives parents more time to do other things, but also nurtures self-discipline in children. She offers her book, full of personal stories from parents, including herself, as a positive parenting plan that will help parents to "stop doing everything and have more fun." This is the author's first published book, but she is no stranger to writing. She was a journalist for five years, and in 2005, became program director for commuter services for two chambers of commerce and about 20 Fortune 500 companies. "I'm used to asking people to do something they really don't want to do," she says. Tordella has four children, none of whom seem to have suffered from having to do household chores. This despite her personal story in the book about how, during one of her family meetings, she decided that her children, then ages 9 to 16, should clean all of the windows and carpets. Apart from some close calls, Tordella says that the experience reinforced her family's values of having fun while working together and saving money. "Taking responsibility for chores overflowed into other areas of their lives almost immediately," she writes in her book. "The children had the self-discipline to manage their school work from elementary school onwards. They were in charge of practicing their instruments, keeping track of library books, and doing their laundry starting at age 10 or 12." Asked why she wrote the book, Tordella responded, "I just feel there is a need, because chores teach children so much. It is a really simple technique to teach children a variety of skills -- project management, self-discipline -- a way for a child to belong to their first social group: Their families." The author says that the book is based on the work of Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler, a contemporary of Sigmund Freud. "His basic idea is this: human beings want to belong-- to be a part of a group. Chores are a way to belong -- a really important human need," said Tordella. "When people depend on you, you feel connected and as if you're making a contribution." Raising Able took Tordella about 17 months to write. As part of the concept for the book, "A friend suggested I do a survey. I surveyed over 560 people ages 11 to 90." After receiving about 300 surveys, another friend suggested that she compare age groups, separating older respondents from people aged 11 to 18. The surveys were done online, and it was no easy task to get people to participate, she said. For example, "I went to the bus stop and spoke to a father at 6:45 a.m. and asked the kids to do it. ... I got some surveys on a long bike ride. I saw some kids playing basketball and asked them to take the survey. I also solicited friends and members of the Unitarian church in Littleton. Ray Glazier of Belmont helped me interpret the surveys later. "The most significant thing we found was that students who do chores are less likely to abuse drugs and alcohol in high school. Also, if you do chores, you're more likely to have family dinners, and the positive associations of family dinners are significant in terms of lower drug and alcohol use. "The time between 2 p.m. and midnight is when drug and alcohol use are most likely to occur, and family dinner comes right in the middle. It's like checking in with your conscience," she says. --The Ayer Public Spirit
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