A Little Book of Forgiveness: Challenges and Meditations for Anyone with Something to Forgive - Hardcover

Miller, D. Patrick

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9780670854066: A Little Book of Forgiveness: Challenges and Meditations for Anyone with Something to Forgive

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ISBN 10: 0670854069 ISBN 13: 9780670854066

Publisher: Viking Pr, 1994

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Hardcover w/Dustjacket, perfect in everyway

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It might seem a lot easier to forgive someone if only he or she would show signs of changing. The paradox is that we are unlikely to see signs of change in others until we have forgiven them. This is true for two reasons: First, resentment is blinding. It limits our perception of what is real (or changing) in the present, and shuts down our capacity to envision a happier future. Second, a subtle but crucial function of forgiveness is that it tacitly gives others permission to change...

When you are trying to decide whether someone deserves your forgiveness, you are asking the wrong question. Ask instead whether you deserve to be someone who consistently forgives.

"Sweet revenge" is junk food for the soul. The brief rush that revenge provides will always be followed by the degradation of one's character. There is a real joy to be found in setting things right, but that always involves changing oneself for the better first.

Forgiving your flaws and failures does not mean looking away from them or lying about them. Look at them as a string of pitiful or menacing hitchhikers whom you can't afford not to pick up on your journey to a changed life. Each one of them has a piece of the map you need hidden in its shabby clothing...

Forgiveness is a long night walk by the ocean at ebb tide, with the surf only murmuring.

Forgiveness replaces the need to anticipate fearfully with the capacity to accept gracefully and improvise brilliantly. It does not argue with fate, but recognizes the opportunities latent within it. If necessity is the mother of invention, forgiveness is the midwife of genius.

Forgiveness is not mere sympathy, nor condescension, nor forced generosity. It is the ultimate declaration of equality, founded on the recognition that all crimes are the same crime, every failing the human failing, and every insult a cry for help.

Forgiveness is the science of the heart: a discipline of discovering all the ways of being that will extend your love to the world, and discarding all the ways that do not.

From AudioFile:

A 90-page book enjoying its tenth anniversary in print is the basis for this one-hour lesson on the virtues of forgiveness. The message is one everyone could benefit from, in spite of arguments that occasionally rest on sloppy social science and a tone that has a preachy edge. Worse than these are two production flaws that are so glaring they make listening painful: an overly earnest, almost plaintive, reading by Gene Bogart and electronic background music in a discordant minor key that creates an atmosphere of mystery and the occult. T.W. � AudioFile 2005, Portland, Maine-- Copyright � AudioFile, Portland, Maine

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