Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit - Softcover

Chernin Ph.D., Kim; Stendhal Ph.D., Renate

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0615992366 ISBN 13: 9780615992365

Publisher: www.lesbiansexsurvival.com, 2014

Synopsis

Now that lesbian marriage and lesbian couples are stepping into full recognition by culture and society, there is more pressure to succeed as a couple – and potentially a family. There is also the invitation to fill the age-old institution with a new spirit and new forms of living.

When you fall in love, you want love and sex, as well as passion and intimacy to be around forever. And why not? Whether you are in a committed lesbian relationship, on the path to marriage or already married, you want to make sure your sexual attraction will never fade. You would like to receive all the blessings of marriage: sex and romance, closeness and tenderness, honesty and harmony... until death do you part.

We all know that keeping sex and romance alive is not a piece of cake. Let this book help youalong in the spirit of frankness and humor. You will find stories, reflections, and “love & sexforever” tools.

Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit offers couples:

·Realistic and effective guidance to keep sex and romance hot ·Shrewd advice and handy tools for the major challenges of lesbian marriage ·Fun lists of what to do and not to do when faced with these challenges ·Taboo-breaking revelations about what really goes on in bed ·Encouragement to see the anxieties and pitfalls of lesbian marriage with humor ·Reassurance that the new pressures to succeed in lesbian marriage can be met creatively
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Kim Chernin and Renate Stendhal are relationship experts, award-winning and bestselling authors who have written extensively about women’s issues, love and sex. In Lesbian Marriage: A Love & Sex Forever Kit, their eye-opening insights illuminate long-term lesbian relationships and the new potentials of lesbian marriage.

Order a copy of this groundbreaking, taboo-smashing book today and keep the spark of passion and romance alive for years to come.

About this title

From the Author:

Renate Stendhal about her coming out: 

"Educating Mutti"______________________"Mutti, Pappi," I said in a matter of fact voice. "I have to tell you something."  I had just arrived on a visit from Paris. I was 26. "I have fallen in love with a woman. I am with women now." 
It  was a cool spring night in the little German spa town where my parents lived. The temperature in the living room dropped to zero. "You can“t be serious!" my mother finally brought out and, knowing that I was,  started to cry. She had already shouted at me years earlier that I would end up a "lesbian". At 17, I had given my heart to a girl in school who never noticed my passion. My mother noticed - she felt the intensity of her own exclusion. But even before she labeled me and I tasted the bittersweet irony of my mother calling me  what I longed to be, I had made her suspicious. 
My first boy friend  had handed me Sartre, Camus, and Jean Genet when I was only 14. I read Genet“s Notre Dame des Fleurs (a book that shortly afterwards was censured in Germany) and saw myself as in a mirror at the end of a  hallway. I had barely woken up from childhood. Now the cruel beauty and poetry, the provocative sacredness of passion between men touched me to the core. I longed to share my sexual discovery with my mother who was still  my confidente. "You have to read this book, Mutti," I urged her. "This is my world!"
On that cool spring night twelve years later, my mother spelled out the nightmare she had lived with ever since she read Jean Genet. "I can see what you will become, " she sobbed. "One of those old, lonely women in a bar, sitting there like  spiders waiting to drag young women into their net!" What was sacred to me was disgusting to her. We were equally disgusted by each other.
 My father, during this scene, had been  pursing his lips as if tasting the news and then, as usual, left the space to my mother. Later, he appeared in my door and assured me, "Whatever... if it makes you happy!"  We exchanged a relieved smile, but I had my misgivings. My liberal father who had grown up in Berlin and been propositioned by gay men in his youth, had also taken the liberty  to eroticise his relationship to his daughters. Now he might amuse himself with a new twist in his daughter fantasies. While there was not much I could do about my father“s fantasy life,  I could certainly educate Mutti about the meaning of the word "lesbian."
I not only brought her my freshly minted feminist world view, I invited  all my lovers home. My sister visited with her family; I claimed the same right to be accompanied by my lesbian lover. 
The Christmas photos the first  year show my father radiant between me and my part-Vietnamese lover with her disarming, crooked-teeth laugh of a boychild. My mother looks away from the camera with  a pained smile. Perhaps she was having a hard time seeing that exuberant boy-girl at my side as a lonely spider in a bar?
The pattern of Mutti“s education  had clicked in. I set the conditions: You embrace me as a lesbian or you lose me. Her daughter - and her love for her daughter  - did not leave her a choice.

About the Author:

Kim Chernin’s extensive body of work spans many genres, including fiction, nonfiction, memoir and poetry. Many of her seventeen published books are concerned with feminist and Jewish themes. Her book, In My Mother’s House (1982) is regarded as a precursor of women’s memoir writing. A number of her books are autobiographical, in particular My Life as a Boy, a coming-out story. She is an expert on women’s relation to food and eating, author of the national bestseller The Hungry Self.

Renate Stendhal, Ph.D. is a German-born, Paris-educated writer and writing coach. She serves as provost, mentor, and practitioner of intuitive listening and common sense conversation. Renate has written several books, among them the award-winning photo-biography, Gertrude Stein: In Words and Pictures, which evolved into a Gertrude Stein blog, “Why Do Something if it Can Be Done.” Her articles and essays have appeared internationally. She is a senior cultural correspondent for the international magazine for arts and media, Scene4. She is working on an erotic Paris memoir.

Kim and Renate have previously co-written Sex and Other Sacred Games and Cecilia Bartoli: The Passion of Song.

About this edition

• Publisher: www.lesbiansexsurvival.com
• Publication date: 2014
• ISBN 10: 0615992366
• ISBN 13: 9780615992365
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 162