Life After Birth: What Even Your Friends Won't Tell You About Motherhood - Softcover

Figes, Kate; Zimmerman, Jean

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9780312283322: Life After Birth: What Even Your Friends Won't Tell You About Motherhood

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ISBN 10: 0312283326 ISBN 13: 9780312283322

Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin, 2002

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This book was a huge bestseller in England. A heartfelt, down-to-earth look at the subject of childbirth and the adjustments physically, emotionally, and mentally--from choosing whether or not to work to dealing with perpetual exhaustion--that a woman e

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About the Author:

Kate Figes is the author of Because of her Sex. She writes regularly on parenting issues for London's Times and Guardian. She lives in London. Jean Zimmerman is the coauthor, with Gil Reavill, of Raising Our Athletic Daughters: How Sports Can Guild Selft-Esteem And Save Girls' LivesS

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Phenomena like postnatal changes and adjustment to motherhood are conspicuously absent from the truckload of information and advice new mothers receive. Figes (Because of Her Sex), mother of two, bravely blazes a trail to challenge the codified construct of make-nice new motherhood. She uses interviews, statistics, historical data and personal experience to explore this difficult, exhilarating and often traumatic transition. Via chapters on "Health After Birth," "Working and the `Good' Mother," "Exhaustion," "Relations with the Father," "Sex and Sensuality" and "Friends and the Outside World," she debunks myths and reassures and commiserates with new mothers. An appendix outlines common health problems. Maintaining that motherhood is the best thing that ever happened to her, Figes describes the radical physical and emotional changes new moms face. Her discussions of sleep deprivation, love for the child, range of severity in postpartum depression, anger at the loss of control in life, common sources of tension between new parents, deepening intimacy with the father and the history of the mother's role will interest and resonate with all mothers of young children. Though largely successful, Figes goes astray when, cutting new moms some slack, she is dismissive and judgmental about modern, child-centered parenting practices (e.g., she states that frequently sharing a bed with your child is a sign of "subtle sexual abuse"). Occasional extreme views, combined with sometimes overreaching historical comparisons and the awkward title, undercut her overall purpose. However, reading with a freshly sharpened eye, new mothers will find much comfort in this informative book.

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